Feb 27 started like any other day, we had an appointment for noon at the hospital and then we were heading for a nice lunch. With almost 3 weeks to my due date, we were feeling pretty confident that today would be a quiet one.
Our house is still under construction (inside and out!) meaning even though we were able to move in, at 9am every day the workers show up. That kept us busy all morning so we were running late and didn’t even have time to grab Starbucks. But I thought, whatever we’ll do this quick and have a huge lunch right after!!
As soon as I sat in the chair and she took my blood pressure, I knew. I wasn’t going for lunch, and I wasn’t going home today.
She said my BP was in the 200’s and she would call my dr to come in. I was hooked up to the non stress test and that didn’t go well, either. The surgeon came in and told us that we were going to have a baby TODAY.
Even though you know your baby is due soon, nothing prepares you for that moment.
They said we could have 5-6 hours to get our shit together, so that’s we did.
My hubby ran home for the hospital bags, luckily I already had them packed. I stayed alone and they checked me into our suite.
I took some time to just be alone, this was the last time I’ll ever be just a 20 something with no responsibilities. Then my hubby came back, and we hung out together. This was the last time it would be just the two of us. Those hours flew by, our families arrived and before I was really prepared....they wanted us to get dressed. Alex was so excited to put his scrubs on. I was so scared. I was about to undergo a major, emergency surgery and there was no turning back. At 7:00 the Nurse came in with my wheelchair, I was terrified. Everyone was hugging me, I was not ok. He pushed the little baby cot into pre-op where he waited for me to be prepped. I went into the OR. There were so many people. I sat on the table, I felt a pinch in my back. My legs started to go numb. I laid down. Then my stomach, then my lungs.
That’s when I panicked. I knew something was wrong. I couldn’t breathe. Trying to explain to them that I couldn’t breathe was horrific. Those next few minutes are a blur, but eventually the freezing was reversed and I was fine.
It was supposed to be 5 minutes but because of this incident it was about 30, and Alex was outside worried.
Finally, they brought him in. We held hands. Tight. We were still in shock that this was happening today, and trying to grasp reality. It was just a minute or two I until they said “you’re gonna feel pressure now” I did. And then suddenly, we heard the tiniest little cry. 7:34pm
Our baby was already born, and we were SOBBING
They held him up over the curtain and the drs took pics for us. He was perfect. Alex went over and cut the cord, he put his little hat on him and then they gave him to me. I got to hold him for a couple minutes before they took Daddy & baby to the recovery room for skin to skin.
I didn’t feel anything else by the way, after that pressure of them pulling him out.
They brought me in to join them soon after and we all spent a couple hours together as a family, totally in shock and awe of our precious baby.
He was a nice chubby 7 lb 10 oz.
We spent 5 days post op in the hospital, my pre eclampsia didn’t get better and I was suffering insane blood pressure migraines. On the 5th day, I couldn’t take it anymore. Staying there wasn’t helping anything and we wanted to go home where it was comfortable. We begged to be released and they obliged. On March 4th, we finally took our baby home and life began...
The past couple weeks have been a total shit show. My blog posts are scarce right now cause it’s been ROUGH.
We sold the house we were living in just a couple weeks ago, and the house we’re building isn’t finished yet..ugh!
In this kind of situation, we would usually just bail and go on vacation for a couple months but I am way too sick to travel.
All of our other properties are either occupied or being torn down at the moment, SO we’re staying in a small suite nearby our new house to keep watch on things.
Moving house last week while I was 25 weeks pregnant SUCKED! But I have to give a major thanks to Small Moves Vancouver for moving our house into storage and Molly Maid for always having my back in the cleaning department.
This was only supposed to be for 6 weeks, but we just got word from the builder that things are running approx 3 weeks behind schedule and now our house is about 9 weeks from completion...ughhhh to the max.
(How often do babies come early? Fuuck!)
Speaking of babies, I’m now settling into my third trimester and baby is due in just 13 weeks. He still measures big, about two weeks ahead in the 96th percentile. We have decided to take an elective c-section a week early on recommendation from our OBGYN to keep us both safe at delivery.
While I’ve been trying to wrap my head around the idea of a major surgery, I’ve been getting even more sick. It’s really tough to describe what my life has been like this whole time but it’s basically like you’ve drank way too much, it’s 4am and you need to throw up RIGHTNOW. Except after you throw up you still feel the same and it never ever stops every waking moment of your life. This weekend I threw up all over MYSELF at the MALL. OMG! Pants and shoes right to the garbage 😂 Pregnancy really does take away any sense of normalcy in your life 😂
Upon investigation from another blood draw, they found my hcg levels are continuously spiking when they are supposed to be dropping A LOT. After 12 weeks, almost woman feels better as the placenta has taken over the work your body was doing and your hormones drop significantly.
Since I’m so far along now, and with my history of the molar....
this is concerning and could mean that there is cancerous tissue growing in my uterus, so we’re off to the BC Cancer Agency next week to try and find out. It could also be nothing and I could just be one of the REALLY unlucky ones that has been plagued with miscarriage and horrible pregnancies. It’s so sad because we want lots of kids but this year has taken such a toll on us.
There is good news! I passed my gestational diabetes test! ....which was a worry and it was awful. If you’re nearing the dreaded 24 week GD test, I feel for you. It does suck as bad as you hear. You have to chug the biggest, nastiest glass of warm juice really fast and then you sit in the room for a full hour. Then you get your blood taken. Oh, and you’re not allowed to go outside or anything so make sure you have what you need with you. I forgot my fucking phone in the car so I was just staring at a wall for the hour.....(wanted to die)
Another piece of good news is that our little boy is very active and healthy. He’s about 2.5 lbs now, He sleeps most of the day but starts rolling around and kicking like crazy at night. Daddy gets to feel his kicks now which is really exciting for him.
This is our last Christmas as regular kids, by this time next year we’ll be the proud parents of a bouncing 10 month old boy! And I know that everything we have experienced this year will be worth it. I know New Years is still a few weeks away, but we are SO READY for 2019!
I’ve been quiet lately cause...
The nausea culprit has been found 😢
It took 21 long weeks, but this has been an especially disappointing time.
We just found out a few things are wrong with me and we’ve been having a hard time adjusting.
I’ve had chronic kidney disease my whole life, but the Doctors never connected the dots until now.
The kidneys filter the HCG hormone out of your system, and IF working properly..
you won’t be sick longer than the first trimester.
Unfortunately, My kidneys are not filtering properly and the hormones are building up every day, causing me to be extremely nauseous at night and throw up.
The hardest part for us to accept is that I won’t be getting better until the baby is out, and all of my future pregnancies will be the same.
I’ve also been getting dizzy spells where I almost fall down every day. Bloodwork confirmed I have anemia now, and also confirmed my muscles aren’t functioning properly, so as I suspected: I’m totally like...dying!
The moral of the story is this though, you never know what pregnancy will bring. Be sure that you are ready mentally, physically and financially with SERIOUS support around you!
Without a strong support system and the means to spend my days relaxing, I probably wouldn’t have made it this far.
My husband has spent the last 5 months cleaning my vomit, physically lifting me off the floor, dashing into stores for pills and water the second I need them, sitting around for hours all day while I sleep. He hasn’t opened the fridge in 5 months, we have NO idea what’s in there 😂 I can be triggered by anything but the fridge is my biggest enemy. He hasn’t turned on our oven or even used the microwave in 5 months because it will set me off so badly.
We have to haul our asses out of the house for every single meal!
He has to do all of the care of our dogs, because I can’t even handle the smell of their food.
This is what they mean by “in sickness and in health” I guess..... ❤️ I truly hope our son turns out just like his Dad.
On a positive note, We can be thankful for this....
All of this has no effect on the baby, he’s a big, healthy bouncing boy who has no idea the trouble he’s caused already!
Onto week 22...
It’s been a crazy week!!
At the half way point, I’m officially in maternity clothes and I just have to say.. why the hell don’t I just wear these all the time??
They’re insanely comfortable. There’s no waistband in the pants so it doesn’t even feel like you’re wearing any 😂 which is every girls dream, right? That’s why we, as a species have ousted jeans for leggings.
I’m getting up 5-6x in the night for a drink, I wake up extremely dehydrated constantly. *hot tip 4 moms* drink Gatorade instead of water in the night, it def helps.
Pregnancy is no fucking joke..why didn’t anybody warn me?
I tried to wean off my meds this week, only to discover that I’m still really nauseous at all hours without them.
I’m so disappointed and really thought I was getting better. I can’t believe at 5 months I’m still this sick. This does not bode well for my next pregnancy when I have a baby already at home to take care of. Our plan is lessen my suffering by having all of our kids close together. Like 4 long years of sickness is better than spreading it out over 10 years, right? That’s our logic anyway....
Hello daddy daycare 😹
Our kid will be subdividing the sandbox by his first birthday 😹
Speaking of that, our current big project just hit the market and we are so stoked! Although we looked at this property for years, we just made the offer on it last October. So, it’s been only a year since we bought it.
This will probably be our last real estate project for a while because we’re going to focus full time on parenting, plus the market is acting funny right now.
We also stopped by our new house today!!! The concrete has been poured and the plumbing is done!! Electrical is next and then.... DRYWALL baby!
We’re busy picking paint colours and faucet styles next week....
My broken heart is nearing an awful day.
As I’m inching closer and closer to my original due date...I’m getting all the feels.
My original due date with the baby we lost was December 5th. That means I’d be about 33 weeks pregnant right now and preparing to deliver. Instead, and very luckily (I know) I am about 19 weeks and won’t be delivering until early March.
I feel a lot of anxiety regarding Christmas because he should have been here with us and instead he never will be.
This new, healthy pregnancy has been a very welcome distraction from what my reality was such a short time ago.
I am following so many other women’s journeys who have suffered infertility and struggled far more loss than I have.
I have experienced just enough to know what it’s like.
There were so many days I felt left behind by the world in my grief, even though I had such a great support system around me. It didn’t change my feelings, I would find myself really really angry and people around me seemed to forget why. That made me even more mad.
I don’t know how I’ll handle my original due date when it comes, but I’m already starting to feel the sadness. Grief comes in waves, I truly thought I was over it but as it turns out, I’m not. Maybe I’ll never be, and that’s ok. Our angel boy has a little baby brother coming earth side and we are grateful for that. I’m still throwing up every couple days but weaning off my medication. I never imagined that I’d be so sick for the first 5 months of pregnancy, but now I know what to expect for next time..
In good news, our garage is full of baby purchases...He has a FULL NAME!!!....
So I’ve been ordering custom things with his name on them 🤭💘
Unfortunately.. everything will stay boxed until we move into our new home this coming January!
Daddy will have to build that crib, stroller, bouncer and bassinet QUICK!
Baby boy is 9 days oversized, so here’s hoping our house keeps coming along perfectly and he stays put in my belly til his due date...
Today we went for a long walk in the park and despite feeling like a baby beluga I am so excited is half way to earth ❤️
I know, I know. Cruising kinda sounds like it’s for old people, and throughout the better part of history.. it has been.
These days however, things are changing. The higher end cruise lines are especially changing as they target millennials, by changing their dress codes and adding nightclubs to their ships. I’m not saying there’s not old people. There are. A lot of them. Most of them. But, it’s becoming a place for us too.
I have completed 8 cruises so far, with 3 different cruise lines! I’m definitely an experienced cruiser for any age, most boomers haven’t done a cruise let alone 8. When we first started cruising a few years ago, we would constantly get mistaken for ship crew. Sometimes we still do...
I’m gonna break down what happens on a cruise, cause I feel like there’s a lot of people who just don’t get it. It’s especially intimidating and nerve wracking to book a cruise when you’ve never done one.
My first recommendation would be to go on your trip with somebody who’s been on one before. IF that’s not a possibility, just read my blog post! Hah
First you’re going to book it. You’re going to choose what kind of room you want. Just an interior room with no window is the cheapest bet. They get more expensive with a window, a balcony, and suites are extremely expensive.
With cruises, you get what you pay for. You really do.
If you’re looking for the cheapest thing possible, I would go with a lower end cruise line such as Holland America. The ships are old, the food sucks, the entertainment is “okay”
If you’re looking for the most luxurious thing possible, I would go with a line like Celebrity. (My personal choice!)
The ships are stunningly beautiful, the food is best in the world and the entertainment is absolutely world class.
No matter which line you choose, your food and entertainment is *FREE*
It’s included in your room price.
Alcohol is not, but each line offers an alcoholic beverage package that you can purchase, if you want to drink freely rather than “pay as you go”.
You’ll get your picture taken & be given a “sea pass” upon check in at the cruise terminal that will act as your ID, room key and method of payment throughout the duration of your cruise. Once you get on board, you can go check out your room and do a tour of the ship. Get to know your way around. Then there will be a quick safety drill about an hour before the ship leaves, that everybody must attend.
A typical day on board:
There are two types of days on board a ship. One is a port day, this means you’re in a destination location!
When you wake up, you’ll look outside and find you’re parked in let’s say, Catalina Island.
You’re free to hop off and spend the day ashore, doing as you please..so long as you’re back before the ship leaves which is usually about 5pm.
You don’t HAVE to get off. Some people don’t. In my opinion that’s a waste but who am I to judge?
Once back on, you’ll probably want dinner so you can hit the glorious buffet or get dressed up for a fancy dinner in the dining room. Whatever you feel the mood is.
After dinner there is generally a theatre production you can attend. There’s nightclubs, coffee shops, bars, the nicer ships even have shopping. There are games rooms and casinos, bingo, outdoor movie theatres, and all sorts of free classes you can take. There’s a gym, tons of pools, hot tubs and of course a spa.
All this while your ship sails onto the next destination, and you wake up tomorrow morning in a new place. Cool as fuck, right.
The second kind of day is a sea day, if your next destination is a little further then there might be a sea day in between. These days your ship is sailing, no stops.
Your whole day will be pool lounging, eating, you get my drift.
Your room also offers free room service, so you can enjoy your meals in private if you want.
There are also two kinds of ports. The first is a regular docking port, which means you’ll just be walking off a ramp onto land. The second is a tender port, meaning you’ll be shuttled by lifeboat to land. Tender ports are fun, it’s like a free mini excursion. If you go on a cheaper line, however I would recommend booking docking ports only because the cheaper lines have a much higher passenger count and that means you’ll be waiting a while for a boat. The high end lines, there will always be a boat ready to take you.
The PROS of cruising:
The CONS of cruising:
Again, I would recommend a Celebrity ship. A close second for me is Princess. They’re pretty great, too.
I would not recommend Holland America or Carnival, unless you’re looking for dirt cheap just to get a vibe for cruising.
Studies are saying no...which I find bizarre. So are my friends.
When I met my husband we were both super poor and started pooling our money together QUICK.
Like, within 2 months of dating. This gave us a better money pool and allowed us to lean on each other in times of need. We bonded with this, and attribute it as one of the factors to our strong relationship today.
So anyway, it came as a surprise to us when our friends and family would tell us they don’t share bank accounts with their spouse.
I’ve seen family have arguments about who’s buying the cereal because the other person doesn’t eat it, so why should she have to buy it?
That to me...is insane. How can you build a partnership when you’re arguing about $3 cereal? Furthermore, how can you ensure that you’re both accountable to each other and heading in the same direction financially?
Still, Millennials are far less likely to share bank accounts with their spouse than older generations. This to me just breeds deceit and secrets, but apparently I’m not the majority.
The trend seems particularly popular among low income couples, I guess that’s because they value what little they have more than peers who have a lot to spare.
Millennial women are also more to blame for this, as this generation demands individuality and equality.
The workforce is now about 47% female and these women don’t want to blur their finances now that women are earning more than ever.
My opinion is that this doesn’t bode well for relationships, a recent study shows that couples who merge finances tend to stay together over those who don’t.
To me, it just seems like one more relationship pressure point that nobody needs.
This week has been so intense with the Kavanaugh hearing...I thought I’d throw in another major predator to the mix.
Avon. Arbonne. Herbalife. Mary Kay. ItWorks.
What do these all have in common besides being targeted towards the unsuspecting housewife?
They’re a total fucking scam.
MLM’s or “pyramid schemes” are set up perfectly.
Perfectly for you to fail, that is.
At some point in your life, you’ve likely been approached by a friend or coworker to join them in their lil cult activity. They were also probably naive and didn’t know what they got themselves into.
While there are many MLM’s that offer up absolutely nothing but a twisted idea that sounds so smart it has to be real, most of them actually have a product and that’s where they getcha.
In a product based scam like Herbalife, this is how you are doomed to fail in a few simple steps:
The schemes are absolute pro’s at selling you a dream. If you’re nearing the end of your rope, they’ll get you one last time, real good.
This is when they bring out the big guns. They start telling you how you’re not trying hard enough like, “look at *Samantha* she’s a diamond level!”
or that you don’t have enough product in stock.
This leads MANY women to sink a shit ton more money into the business. But you didn’t have buyers to begin with, so now you’re really fucked.
You will lose all of your money.
In a “naked” scheme where there’s no product, the statistics show that 90.4% of people lose their investment and walk away with nothing but a bruised ego and likely, a few less friends.
In a product based scheme, it’s even worse. The woo you with a product, but you’re actually more fucked.
The statistics show 99.88% of people lose their investment with a product based scheme, and end up with a garage full of junk nobody wants. Oh - you lost a few friends too girl.
The reason why these companies are so successful at preying on women is simple. We want equality. We want to get rich too.
We’re also bored.
The housewife is a perfect target, these companies encourage women to use their network of mom friends and it just spreads like wildfire. Women tend to trust other women, and I’m not calling these women the bad guy, cause most of them don’t even know what they’ve done until it’s far too late.
Women are making the men who run these companies rich AF, while the company runs around masquerading as a business for women to get ahead.
Women today are desperate to find ways to work from home. It’s completely understandable, but we need to look out for ourselves. The golden rule is this:
IF you have to pay to sell a product, you need to ask yourself why. Recruiting is not the way start ups work, and buying shit to sell to other moms is not being a “boss babe”
With major style celebs like Kylie Jenner & Cardi B promoting it, it has to be worth a shot right?!
I’m always on the hunt for comfy dresses, I much prefer them to any pants and very much so now that I’m 17 weeks pregnant!
I ordered 4 dresses including the “one of the boys” in blue that Kylie promoted.
Dead honest opinion:
I love my dresses so much it’s sick. They are of high quality, which was my first surprise. Prices for these run $9.99-35.99 so it’s actually affordable for every budget. Quality was not something I was expecting.
In the words of Cardi B “I can buy designer but that Fashion Nova FIT”
Girl, it fits. It fits perfectly, comfortably and looks like it was tailor made for you. If you order your true size, you can’t go wrong.
Another thing Fashion Nova does is this, they give you a discount for sending in a review of your previous purchases. Now I’m completely hooked.
I made another order of 4 fall jackets. Here, I reallllly wasn’t expecting quality. Wrong again.
I got the most stretchy, comfy and thick jean jackets. A waterproof rain coat (what??) I’m obsessed.
They also run insane sales every couple weeks so you will be getting a 30% off deal constantly if you sign up for the emails.
Fashion Nova has taken the women’s clothing realm to the next level, shipping is pretty fast. It’s not amazon prime but it’s pretty good.
They have a new men’s collection, there’s a lot of nice stuff but it’s pretty trendy for my husbands liking.
They do have maternity, but I find their regular dresses quite stretchy and I haven’t needed to buy maternity yet.
They have swimwear, Halloween costumes and I honestly don’t know if I’ll shop in a store again 🙀 I just made an order for about 10 fall dresses!!! They are stretchy for my growing belly and have long sleeves which is so nice. I’ll post them when they arrive!
Everything I’m wearing below is by Fashion Nova 💙
Give us a break already, Boomers! We’re too busy spending our entire paycheck on avocados to be concerned with industry killing. Boomers and Gen X’ers didn’t set us up well, we all know that.
Aaaaand just as history loves to repeat itself, we can definitely just roll our eyes and ignore how the older generation looks down on us.
I prefer to dive right in and pick everything apart though 😂
So let’s take an honest look at 5 things us Millennials have been accused of ruining...
2. Home Ownership: Yeah, I agree. We are killing it, thanks again to the economy LEFT TO US..Most Millennials are unable to put a down payment on a house, thanks to stagnant wages and rising house costs in almost every area. To buy a detached home in Vancouver, you’re going to need an income of $211,673 or higher. Good luck with that? Once faced with crippling student loan debt, many of us are opting to move back in with our parents. This one...I don’t think we can take the blame for you guys.
3. Face-to-face interaction: Ok, this one I believe. I met my husband on the dating site POF. I don’t have much defence here. It’s said that 4 in 10 Millennials interact more with their smartphone than their family, friends and kids. We have as a society become addicted to our smartphones, so we probably have ruined in real life face time, but hey...when Dad needs to convert a PDF to a word document who’s got his back? No boomer, that’s for damn sure.
4. Marriage: Millennials are marrying less often and later in life. They’re choosing to push off marriage until they’re financially stable, which for most of us is well into our thirties and forties. Again, I’m gonna blame the boomers here guys. Just ask the college kids of America who are currently shouldering over 1.3 trillion dollars in student loans.
5. The 9-to-5 grind: Here’s something I can get on board with. I’m personally one of these people. Millennials are demanding more flexibility in the workplace. Over 40% of workers now being able to work from home, at least part of the time. The flip side is that we also don’t unplug when we’re off shift, over 60% of workers check their work emails from home. As we’ve become dependent on more and more employment, second jobs and longer days...some of us have just said “fuck it” to that life and went our own way. More housewives and SAHM’s are starting businesses today than ever before. I’m glad we’re ruining this one. We have to think about the future when robots take most of our jobs, what will we do with our lives?
In closure, I think that we should stand up for ourselves more often. Thank a Gen X’er for the economy and see how they like it. Boomers and X’ers have left us in quite a pickle.
We could do that, or we could just start blaming everything on Gen Z 😂 Fuckin lazy kids!