It’s been a crazy week!!
At the half way point, I’m officially in maternity clothes and I just have to say.. why the hell don’t I just wear these all the time??
They’re insanely comfortable. There’s no waistband in the pants so it doesn’t even feel like you’re wearing any 😂 which is every girls dream, right? That’s why we, as a species have ousted jeans for leggings.
I’m getting up 5-6x in the night for a drink, I wake up extremely dehydrated constantly. *hot tip 4 moms* drink Gatorade instead of water in the night, it def helps.
Pregnancy is no fucking joke..why didn’t anybody warn me?
I tried to wean off my meds this week, only to discover that I’m still really nauseous at all hours without them.
I’m so disappointed and really thought I was getting better. I can’t believe at 5 months I’m still this sick. This does not bode well for my next pregnancy when I have a baby already at home to take care of. Our plan is lessen my suffering by having all of our kids close together. Like 4 long years of sickness is better than spreading it out over 10 years, right? That’s our logic anyway....
Hello daddy daycare 😹
Our kid will be subdividing the sandbox by his first birthday 😹
Speaking of that, our current big project just hit the market and we are so stoked! Although we looked at this property for years, we just made the offer on it last October. So, it’s been only a year since we bought it.
This will probably be our last real estate project for a while because we’re going to focus full time on parenting, plus the market is acting funny right now.
We also stopped by our new house today!!! The concrete has been poured and the plumbing is done!! Electrical is next and then.... DRYWALL baby!
We’re busy picking paint colours and faucet styles next week....
My broken heart is nearing an awful day.
As I’m inching closer and closer to my original due date...I’m getting all the feels.
My original due date with the baby we lost was December 5th. That means I’d be about 33 weeks pregnant right now and preparing to deliver. Instead, and very luckily (I know) I am about 19 weeks and won’t be delivering until early March.
I feel a lot of anxiety regarding Christmas because he should have been here with us and instead he never will be.
This new, healthy pregnancy has been a very welcome distraction from what my reality was such a short time ago.
I am following so many other women’s journeys who have suffered infertility and struggled far more loss than I have.
I have experienced just enough to know what it’s like.
There were so many days I felt left behind by the world in my grief, even though I had such a great support system around me. It didn’t change my feelings, I would find myself really really angry and people around me seemed to forget why. That made me even more mad.
I don’t know how I’ll handle my original due date when it comes, but I’m already starting to feel the sadness. Grief comes in waves, I truly thought I was over it but as it turns out, I’m not. Maybe I’ll never be, and that’s ok. Our angel boy has a little baby brother coming earth side and we are grateful for that. I’m still throwing up every couple days but weaning off my medication. I never imagined that I’d be so sick for the first 5 months of pregnancy, but now I know what to expect for next time..
In good news, our garage is full of baby purchases...He has a FULL NAME!!!....
So I’ve been ordering custom things with his name on them 🤭💘
Unfortunately.. everything will stay boxed until we move into our new home this coming January!
Daddy will have to build that crib, stroller, bouncer and bassinet QUICK!
Baby boy is 9 days oversized, so here’s hoping our house keeps coming along perfectly and he stays put in my belly til his due date...
Today we went for a long walk in the park and despite feeling like a baby beluga I am so excited is half way to earth ❤️
I know, I know. Cruising kinda sounds like it’s for old people, and throughout the better part of history.. it has been.
These days however, things are changing. The higher end cruise lines are especially changing as they target millennials, by changing their dress codes and adding nightclubs to their ships. I’m not saying there’s not old people. There are. A lot of them. Most of them. But, it’s becoming a place for us too.
I have completed 8 cruises so far, with 3 different cruise lines! I’m definitely an experienced cruiser for any age, most boomers haven’t done a cruise let alone 8. When we first started cruising a few years ago, we would constantly get mistaken for ship crew. Sometimes we still do...
I’m gonna break down what happens on a cruise, cause I feel like there’s a lot of people who just don’t get it. It’s especially intimidating and nerve wracking to book a cruise when you’ve never done one.
My first recommendation would be to go on your trip with somebody who’s been on one before. IF that’s not a possibility, just read my blog post! Hah
First you’re going to book it. You’re going to choose what kind of room you want. Just an interior room with no window is the cheapest bet. They get more expensive with a window, a balcony, and suites are extremely expensive.
With cruises, you get what you pay for. You really do.
If you’re looking for the cheapest thing possible, I would go with a lower end cruise line such as Holland America. The ships are old, the food sucks, the entertainment is “okay”
If you’re looking for the most luxurious thing possible, I would go with a line like Celebrity. (My personal choice!)
The ships are stunningly beautiful, the food is best in the world and the entertainment is absolutely world class.
No matter which line you choose, your food and entertainment is *FREE*
It’s included in your room price.
Alcohol is not, but each line offers an alcoholic beverage package that you can purchase, if you want to drink freely rather than “pay as you go”.
You’ll get your picture taken & be given a “sea pass” upon check in at the cruise terminal that will act as your ID, room key and method of payment throughout the duration of your cruise. Once you get on board, you can go check out your room and do a tour of the ship. Get to know your way around. Then there will be a quick safety drill about an hour before the ship leaves, that everybody must attend.
A typical day on board:
There are two types of days on board a ship. One is a port day, this means you’re in a destination location!
When you wake up, you’ll look outside and find you’re parked in let’s say, Catalina Island.
You’re free to hop off and spend the day ashore, doing as you please..so long as you’re back before the ship leaves which is usually about 5pm.
You don’t HAVE to get off. Some people don’t. In my opinion that’s a waste but who am I to judge?
Once back on, you’ll probably want dinner so you can hit the glorious buffet or get dressed up for a fancy dinner in the dining room. Whatever you feel the mood is.
After dinner there is generally a theatre production you can attend. There’s nightclubs, coffee shops, bars, the nicer ships even have shopping. There are games rooms and casinos, bingo, outdoor movie theatres, and all sorts of free classes you can take. There’s a gym, tons of pools, hot tubs and of course a spa.
All this while your ship sails onto the next destination, and you wake up tomorrow morning in a new place. Cool as fuck, right.
The second kind of day is a sea day, if your next destination is a little further then there might be a sea day in between. These days your ship is sailing, no stops.
Your whole day will be pool lounging, eating, you get my drift.
Your room also offers free room service, so you can enjoy your meals in private if you want.
There are also two kinds of ports. The first is a regular docking port, which means you’ll just be walking off a ramp onto land. The second is a tender port, meaning you’ll be shuttled by lifeboat to land. Tender ports are fun, it’s like a free mini excursion. If you go on a cheaper line, however I would recommend booking docking ports only because the cheaper lines have a much higher passenger count and that means you’ll be waiting a while for a boat. The high end lines, there will always be a boat ready to take you.
The PROS of cruising:
The CONS of cruising:
Again, I would recommend a Celebrity ship. A close second for me is Princess. They’re pretty great, too.
I would not recommend Holland America or Carnival, unless you’re looking for dirt cheap just to get a vibe for cruising.
Studies are saying no...which I find bizarre. So are my friends.
When I met my husband we were both super poor and started pooling our money together QUICK.
Like, within 2 months of dating. This gave us a better money pool and allowed us to lean on each other in times of need. We bonded with this, and attribute it as one of the factors to our strong relationship today.
So anyway, it came as a surprise to us when our friends and family would tell us they don’t share bank accounts with their spouse.
I’ve seen family have arguments about who’s buying the cereal because the other person doesn’t eat it, so why should she have to buy it?
That to me...is insane. How can you build a partnership when you’re arguing about $3 cereal? Furthermore, how can you ensure that you’re both accountable to each other and heading in the same direction financially?
Still, Millennials are far less likely to share bank accounts with their spouse than older generations. This to me just breeds deceit and secrets, but apparently I’m not the majority.
The trend seems particularly popular among low income couples, I guess that’s because they value what little they have more than peers who have a lot to spare.
Millennial women are also more to blame for this, as this generation demands individuality and equality.
The workforce is now about 47% female and these women don’t want to blur their finances now that women are earning more than ever.
My opinion is that this doesn’t bode well for relationships, a recent study shows that couples who merge finances tend to stay together over those who don’t.
To me, it just seems like one more relationship pressure point that nobody needs.
This week has been so intense with the Kavanaugh hearing...I thought I’d throw in another major predator to the mix.
Avon. Arbonne. Herbalife. Mary Kay. ItWorks.
What do these all have in common besides being targeted towards the unsuspecting housewife?
They’re a total fucking scam.
MLM’s or “pyramid schemes” are set up perfectly.
Perfectly for you to fail, that is.
At some point in your life, you’ve likely been approached by a friend or coworker to join them in their lil cult activity. They were also probably naive and didn’t know what they got themselves into.
While there are many MLM’s that offer up absolutely nothing but a twisted idea that sounds so smart it has to be real, most of them actually have a product and that’s where they getcha.
In a product based scam like Herbalife, this is how you are doomed to fail in a few simple steps:
The schemes are absolute pro’s at selling you a dream. If you’re nearing the end of your rope, they’ll get you one last time, real good.
This is when they bring out the big guns. They start telling you how you’re not trying hard enough like, “look at *Samantha* she’s a diamond level!”
or that you don’t have enough product in stock.
This leads MANY women to sink a shit ton more money into the business. But you didn’t have buyers to begin with, so now you’re really fucked.
You will lose all of your money.
In a “naked” scheme where there’s no product, the statistics show that 90.4% of people lose their investment and walk away with nothing but a bruised ego and likely, a few less friends.
In a product based scheme, it’s even worse. The woo you with a product, but you’re actually more fucked.
The statistics show 99.88% of people lose their investment with a product based scheme, and end up with a garage full of junk nobody wants. Oh - you lost a few friends too girl.
The reason why these companies are so successful at preying on women is simple. We want equality. We want to get rich too.
We’re also bored.
The housewife is a perfect target, these companies encourage women to use their network of mom friends and it just spreads like wildfire. Women tend to trust other women, and I’m not calling these women the bad guy, cause most of them don’t even know what they’ve done until it’s far too late.
Women are making the men who run these companies rich AF, while the company runs around masquerading as a business for women to get ahead.
Women today are desperate to find ways to work from home. It’s completely understandable, but we need to look out for ourselves. The golden rule is this:
IF you have to pay to sell a product, you need to ask yourself why. Recruiting is not the way start ups work, and buying shit to sell to other moms is not being a “boss babe”
With major style celebs like Kylie Jenner & Cardi B promoting it, it has to be worth a shot right?!
I’m always on the hunt for comfy dresses, I much prefer them to any pants and very much so now that I’m 17 weeks pregnant!
I ordered 4 dresses including the “one of the boys” in blue that Kylie promoted.
Dead honest opinion:
I love my dresses so much it’s sick. They are of high quality, which was my first surprise. Prices for these run $9.99-35.99 so it’s actually affordable for every budget. Quality was not something I was expecting.
In the words of Cardi B “I can buy designer but that Fashion Nova FIT”
Girl, it fits. It fits perfectly, comfortably and looks like it was tailor made for you. If you order your true size, you can’t go wrong.
Another thing Fashion Nova does is this, they give you a discount for sending in a review of your previous purchases. Now I’m completely hooked.
I made another order of 4 fall jackets. Here, I reallllly wasn’t expecting quality. Wrong again.
I got the most stretchy, comfy and thick jean jackets. A waterproof rain coat (what??) I’m obsessed.
They also run insane sales every couple weeks so you will be getting a 30% off deal constantly if you sign up for the emails.
Fashion Nova has taken the women’s clothing realm to the next level, shipping is pretty fast. It’s not amazon prime but it’s pretty good.
They have a new men’s collection, there’s a lot of nice stuff but it’s pretty trendy for my husbands liking.
They do have maternity, but I find their regular dresses quite stretchy and I haven’t needed to buy maternity yet.
They have swimwear, Halloween costumes and I honestly don’t know if I’ll shop in a store again 🙀 I just made an order for about 10 fall dresses!!! They are stretchy for my growing belly and have long sleeves which is so nice. I’ll post them when they arrive!
Everything I’m wearing below is by Fashion Nova 💙
Give us a break already, Boomers! We’re too busy spending our entire paycheck on avocados to be concerned with industry killing. Boomers and Gen X’ers didn’t set us up well, we all know that.
Aaaaand just as history loves to repeat itself, we can definitely just roll our eyes and ignore how the older generation looks down on us.
I prefer to dive right in and pick everything apart though 😂
So let’s take an honest look at 5 things us Millennials have been accused of ruining...
2. Home Ownership: Yeah, I agree. We are killing it, thanks again to the economy LEFT TO US..Most Millennials are unable to put a down payment on a house, thanks to stagnant wages and rising house costs in almost every area. To buy a detached home in Vancouver, you’re going to need an income of $211,673 or higher. Good luck with that? Once faced with crippling student loan debt, many of us are opting to move back in with our parents. This one...I don’t think we can take the blame for you guys.
3. Face-to-face interaction: Ok, this one I believe. I met my husband on the dating site POF. I don’t have much defence here. It’s said that 4 in 10 Millennials interact more with their smartphone than their family, friends and kids. We have as a society become addicted to our smartphones, so we probably have ruined in real life face time, but hey...when Dad needs to convert a PDF to a word document who’s got his back? No boomer, that’s for damn sure.
4. Marriage: Millennials are marrying less often and later in life. They’re choosing to push off marriage until they’re financially stable, which for most of us is well into our thirties and forties. Again, I’m gonna blame the boomers here guys. Just ask the college kids of America who are currently shouldering over 1.3 trillion dollars in student loans.
5. The 9-to-5 grind: Here’s something I can get on board with. I’m personally one of these people. Millennials are demanding more flexibility in the workplace. Over 40% of workers now being able to work from home, at least part of the time. The flip side is that we also don’t unplug when we’re off shift, over 60% of workers check their work emails from home. As we’ve become dependent on more and more employment, second jobs and longer days...some of us have just said “fuck it” to that life and went our own way. More housewives and SAHM’s are starting businesses today than ever before. I’m glad we’re ruining this one. We have to think about the future when robots take most of our jobs, what will we do with our lives?
In closure, I think that we should stand up for ourselves more often. Thank a Gen X’er for the economy and see how they like it. Boomers and X’ers have left us in quite a pickle.
We could do that, or we could just start blaming everything on Gen Z 😂 Fuckin lazy kids!
If you’re a mom, chances are you’ve seen the patpat ads. I read through the comments and saw a lot of “is this a scam”?
I figured I’d give them a shot, and can confirm they are legit!
I received my order in 2 weeks, and each outfit came individually packed which was cute!
So the outfits are really cute, they look exactly as I expected them to. The quality is pretty good.
The outfits come with the matching hats if pictured, and the prices can’t be beat. When it comes to baby clothes that they’ll only wear for such a short time...I am overall quite happy with PatPat.
The only critique I have is that the sizes don’t make sense, and they seem to run quite big. I can’t even remember now what size each of these are supposed to be, but they look a lot bigger than the rest of my baby clothes, so these will be 6-12 months outfits for him. No problem for me, but I could see this upsetting somebody if they ordered something specifically to fit right now. (Photo shoot perhaps?)
The numbers on the tags seem to be random as well, there’s an 8 on one of them and a 4 on another.
Seems like you have to eyeball it with this stuff.
The tags do have care instructions on each, which is nice because each fabric is a little different.
Overall, I’m happy and I’ll be ordering again. It’s really nice to have somewhere to get super cutesy boy stuff.
Here’s the pics of my haul:
I like wearing short dresses all summer. I can’t even count how many times people have told me I was dressed “suggestive”. The feeling of being extremely hot and people wanting me to cover up really doesn’t sit well with me.
Two years ago I went away for the weekend, for a wedding and I had packed a gorgeous dress. A perfectly fine dress in my eyes.
When I changed for the wedding, all of the family staying at the Airbnb with us were appalled. It was cut out in the chest area, nothing different than you’d see on the red carpet, or any fashion event.
They shamed me into changing and I was forced to wear something I wasn’t comfortable in, and I felt shitty the entire night. I’ll never forget the way they made me feel. Here I was, a 26 year old married woman being told I looked like I was “asking for it”.
Every few months this topic cycles the news, a teenage girl is shamed by her conservative teacher for her tank top, and she’s sent home.
I don’t believe in school dress codes, at least not the way they’re 100% targeted towards girls. It seems like these dress codes are created with the sole purpose of policing girls bodies. I know the very thought of my non-existent daughter being looked at in this way pisses me off.
Dress codes have become more and more prominent over the past twenty years. Even when I was in school, this didn’t seem to be a problem for me. It’s oddly become more of a problem in my adulthood. Back in the 70’s, mini skirts were hugely popular and totally welcome.
We’re trying to raise girls that are confident in their bodies, and boys that are respectful. So why is the party line always about boys being distracted?
Girls are constantly being penalized and sexualized, this is detrimental to their mental health no doubt. It also sends a very very poor message to little boys who are also confused, trying to find their own way and most of them probably didn’t even notice the tank top. Most of the time, not a single one of the girls or boys are bothered by the clothing. It’s the adults pushing this sexualization onto them. It’s hard enough being a teenager, can we stop making it worse for them?
I think your kid should know these dress codes are sexist. I would encourage my daughter to stand up for herself, to speak her mind on the issue to those who can change it. Maybe our born-to-millennial baby girls can pave the way for future generations?
The bottom line is this:
When you interrupt a girls school day, and you force her to go home and change so her bra strap isn’t showing, you’re telling her two things.
As a soon-to-be boy Mom, I also plan to raise my son to stand with these girls. I want him to stare this sexualization in the face and not accept it.
There are many, many men out there who believe this too. Not all Dads are the “change your slutty outfit before you leave the house” kind of Dads.
We stayed home and watched Dr Ford testify over her sexual assault case today in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee.
Watching my husband cheer her on and say “fuck this guy!” is affirmation I have the Dad I want for my kids.
We are currently knee deep in the building process of our dream home.
We’re building a 5100 sqft home, it has 6 beds and 5 baths. A movie theatre, bar and games room. It has masters on both the main and upper, with a kids wing on the upper too. Yes, a dream.
It’s a huge undertaking, though. We have to choose absolutely everything down to the knobs on the bathroom cupboards and the brand of toilets we want!
We’re not building it ourselves obviously, but sometimes it feels like it.
We’re also in the middle of selling another house we bought earlier in the spring, and developing a large real estate property we purchased last year.
We’re doing pretty well in the real estate game, which is a major success where we live because owning real estate is almost unobtainable to most people our age here.
All of this didn’t come easy to us, that’s for fucking sure. When we first stared dating, neither of us could even afford to rent our own place.
I was renting a room in a house, for like $300/month. This was before the Vancouver real estate market went wild. That would prob cost $700 now.
He was living at home with his parents, and after about a year of dating I moved in there, too so I could comfortably get through school.
Once we finished and got our little business going, we were finally able to rent our own apartment. We very slowly moved up to renting a townhouse, to renting a single family home, to buying our first property. We didn’t get in when the going was good like a lot of people did, but we still managed to become successful.
In our market, houses that were 300k just a few years ago are now 700k.
If you had a big, new house that you paid $600k for, you’re now a millionaire cause it’s worth 1.2m or more. This is the kicker, though.... If you sell that and take your money but that’s the only house you had..where are you gonna go? You need a second.
After a small but good investment came through, we were able to buy a second. This is an absolute MUST!!!! If you want to get ahead in real estate, you must have multiple properties. But hey, I’m not a financial advisor.
Two turned into three and so on. My husband learned a lot about real estate from his Dad, who has been in the business for longer than we’ve been alive.
Real Estate is a special kind of investment. Nobody can steal it from you, it can’t get lost. It’s the safest investment on the planet and if you’re lucky enough to be in the position - don’t wait to buy real estate. Buy real estate and wait. That’s the golden rule!
There’s also a couple hints I’ve learned along the way to help you out:
*my blog is not meant as financial advice*